Let me make this very clear:
This is a zero-tolerance zone for therapy speak.
Not in my office. Not in my inbox. Not in my world.
We’ve gone from grit to diagnosis. From disagreement to pathology. From “do the work” to “I’m protecting my peace.”
And I’m done with it.
🧠 Narcissism? Not Without a Doctor.
Unless you’ve seen a psychiatrist and received an actual diagnosis, stop throwing around clinical labels like confetti. Someone didn’t text you back fast enough? That’s not narcissism. That’s a grown adult prioritizing their schedule.
Here’s a better vocabulary:
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“Attention whore” – when someone demands constant validation and flips out when they don’t get it.
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“Delusional scammer” – when someone expects you to work for free on their “passion project” with zero plan.
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“Entitled asshole” – when someone talks down to a waitress or berates customer service.
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“Snowflake” – when someone gets emotionally wounded because you didn’t tiptoe around their paper-thin ego.
Stop pathologizing other people’s independence.
And if you’re throwing around these terms because of a petty disagreement?
You deserve a kick in the balls.
❌ Next Banned Phrase: “Dismissive Avoidant”
This one gets thrown at anyone who doesn’t drop everything to feed your emotional need machine.
Newsflash: if someone is focused on their work, doesn’t reply to every ping within 30 seconds, and keeps a healthy boundary between their life and your chaos — they’re not avoidant.
They’re high-functioning.
They don’t owe you access. They owe themselves progress.
🚫 Let’s Add a Few More to the Burn List
“Toxic Positivity”
So you’re angry that someone was hopeful around your gloom? Maybe the issue isn’t their attitude. Maybe it’s your emotional addiction to despair.
“Triggered”
You weren’t triggered. You were challenged. And you panicked because no one ever taught you how to take a punch — verbal or otherwise.
“Inner Child”
If your “inner child” is running your life, give them a bedtime and let your adult self back in the driver’s seat.
🧼 Adversity Isn’t Trauma
You didn’t survive war. You didn’t endure starvation. You missed a promotion, had a breakup, and maybe your dad didn’t high-five you enough. That’s not trauma. That’s life.
The strongest people I know have endured actual trauma — and they don’t label every inconvenience as a scar. They train, rebuild, and move forward.
🦁 Say What You Mean. Or Stay Silent.
We don’t need your therapy vocabulary. We need your results.
You don’t need emotional fluency. You need emotional endurance.
So here’s your challenge:
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Ditch the excuses.
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Ditch the labels.
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And ditch the need to be constantly understood.
Be clear. Be direct. Be strong.
Or shut up and make room for those who are.
— Evelyn Cross
