If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck on the sidelines of your own life, it’s time for a wake-up call. According to Nicky Forrest—fashion blogger, model, and someone who’s been popular since day one—the first step to winning in life is to stop whining and start owning your social game.
Nicky’s advice? It’s simple, direct, and maybe a little harsh. “If you’re the one always texting first, stop acting like it’s a bad thing. Someone has to take the initiative, and guess what? That’s what leaders do,” she says. “And for the love of all things stylish, stop complaining about being left on read. People are busy, especially popular ones. Take it as a sign they’re living their life—and you should be, too.”
One of Nicky’s golden rules is to master the art of planning. “Popular people have packed schedules,” she explains. “If you want to hang out with them, get used to planning in advance. It’s not about being ignored; it’s about respecting their time and showing you value the friendship.”
The Friendship Curveball
Ever had a friend bring along extra people to a meetup? Instead of getting upset, Nicky says to flip the script. “This isn’t a betrayal—it’s an opportunity. Expanding your social circle is key to leveling up in life. So, smile, introduce yourself, and see what connections you can make. Winners see possibilities, not problems.”
The Loser Mentality Detox
Nicky also has no patience for negative vibes. “Complaining about everything—whether it’s being the first to text or someone bringing unexpected guests—screams insecurity. Winners adapt and thrive. Losers dwell on the little stuff.”
Fit Body, Fit Mind, Fit Social Life
While social skills are her specialty, Nicky’s also a big believer in staying physically and mentally sharp. “Confidence is attractive, and nothing boosts confidence like feeling good in your own skin. I do Zumba and hit the gym regularly because it keeps me feeling unstoppable,” she says. “You don’t need to be a supermodel to glow—you just need to care about yourself.”
Nicky’s advice might not land softly for everyone, but it’s rooted in her own experiences as someone who’s navigated the highs and lows of social life with finesse. Her parting words? “Stop overthinking, stop complaining, and start acting. The life you want won’t come to you—you have to go get it.”
