Let’s stop pretending everyone wants to get better.
Because the truth? Some people don’t want healing.
They want an audience.
They don’t want to climb out of the pit — they want you to sit in it with them and hand them snacks. They vent for hours, days, years — repeating the same tired monologue like it’s a sacred rite. But when it comes to actually doing something that builds a stronger life? Crickets.
No healthy meals. No exercise. No effort to fix sleep, finances, posture, posture of mind. Just vibes and venting — and an ever-growing list of emotional demands.
And here’s the real kicker: when you do show compassion — when you make a real effort to help — it’s never enough. You lend a hand once and they expect both arms next time. You give them a lift, and now you’re expected to carry them forever. The second you set a boundary or focus on your own goals, they call you “fake,” “cold,” or “just like everyone else.”
That’s not trauma. That’s entitlement.
We all get knocked down. But there’s a difference between being wounded and building a personality out of it. If someone expects you to accommodate their unchecked baggage while refusing to carry their own weight, it’s time to walk away.
Compassion has a limit.
Self-respect doesn’t.
Help the willing. Challenge the lazy. And stop feeding the bottomless pit.
