Let’s talk about one of the most embarrassing complaints I keep hearing from mid-tier people:
“I’m always the one who texts first.”
Boohoo. And? What exactly do you think that says about you — other than the fact that you’re not the main character?
As someone who is popular, I rarely need to contact first. Not because I’m rude, but because I’m flooded. Every day, I get more invitations than I can possibly accept — parties, collabs, group trips, private dinners, podcast guest spots, last-minute yacht invites. The real struggle isn’t finding people to hang out with — it’s deciding who gets a “maybe later” and who gets left on read permanently.
So if I reply to you, that’s not an insult — it’s an upgrade.
And if you’re lucky enough to be in the orbit of someone who actually has social gravity, you better rethink your attitude. Popular people aren’t just people — we’re hubs. We’re access points. We’re multipliers.
Hanging out with someone like me isn’t just a flex — it’s a chance to level up. You’ll meet better people, find yourself in rooms you could never access on your own, and maybe — just maybe — stop being the person who whines in Reddit threads about “uneven effort” in friendships.
Let’s be honest. If you really were on equal footing, you wouldn’t be keeping score. Real confidence doesn’t come with a clipboard.
Also, here’s a little economics lesson: attention is finite. So is time. Just because you had a lonely weekend doesn’t mean someone else’s calendar wasn’t fully booked. Popular people don’t ghost — they filter. And if you’re upset about that, maybe it’s time to ask yourself why you’re getting filtered out.
Because here’s the truth: people want to be around high-energy, high-value people. They’re not looking for guilt-tripping emotional accountants. So instead of complaining that someone hasn’t messaged you back, take the W that you were even in the conversation at all.
Want more equal energy? Then bring more to the table.
Until then, stop crying about who texted first — and be glad I even replied.
